Although most salons don’t provide an emotional support system when getting a drastic change, you can create one yourself. Here’s how I went natural and stayed happy!
Directly from the words of Nike, Just Do It!
Just like riding a bicycle for the first time without training wheels, you have to take that first step. Whether you’re doing the “Big Chop” or continuing with the transition phases, Just Do It! For three months I contemplated going natural and finally I made up my mind and went through with the “Big Chop.” My family and friends doubted me, but their discouragement turned into my motivation.
YouTube is your best friend!
Most likely all of your friends will hate the idea of you going natural, thus leaving you out in the dark when it comes to hair care. Well, in this day and age we are all grateful for such a service as YouTube that allows people to share their own experiences through video. All you have to do is enter a few keywords into the search bar such as “protective styling,” “product reviews,” or even “natural hairstyles.” There are thousands of videos posted from people just like you, going through the same things as you and seeking the same knowledge as you. Therefore, go spend some time with your new best friend, YouTube!
Start with inner change!
The infamous quote “beauty is in the eyes of the beholder” applies to everyone. Once you see your inner self as something beautiful, everything else will fall into place. One of the main reasons of going natural is to release yourself from the constrictions of your hair. A good way to jump start your inner change journey is through affirmations. Saying a small affirmation every day in the mirror such as “I am beautiful” goes a long way with consistency.
Being you IS being different.
Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to be different; we lose sight of who we truly are. The media is known to portray an ideal image of a human being, but it lacks reality. The reality is we are all different and no one person looks the same as the next person. Instead of attempting to stand out from the crowd, try being yourself and see what happens. According to a Kernis and Goldman study at Clayton State University, self-awareness is important in evaluating both your strengths and weaknesses. It also involves acting in ways that are equivalent to your own values and needs. If you believe in yourself and love the way you look, who is anybody else to make you think any differently?
What’s life without failure?
Whenever you try something new, you are bound to face disappointment at some point in time. The moment you realize that every hairstyle you try may not be appealing to you is the day you finally accept change. The natural hair process consists of you having to find the right products for your hair. Some products may make your hair frizzy, thicker, or even dry. While others will make your hair shine, feel soft, and hopefully define its natural texture. It’s a roller coaster ride for your emotions and hair itself.
Don’t be afraid to express your feelings.
Having mixed emotions about your natural hair journey? Feeling alone with no one to talk to? Create a blog today! A blog is perfect for documenting your progress all while expressing your feelings in your own way. Add videos, pictures, or whatever you want to your own blog page. Start with one of these free blog hosting sites such as Blogger or WordPress.
Nothing in this world comes easy, but with these simple suggestions you are bound to experience the natural hair process completely different. Take it from an African-American woman like myself. Every day has been a new challenge for me. However, I’ve found sharing my experiences with others has created great relationships and even better support systems. In comparison to a hair stylist, the best part is that it’s FREE!